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Don’t Tell Me To Be Patient

January 18, 2012

“I want to ride bikes, Mommy!”

My three-year-old pleads with me as we’re riding the elevator up to our apartment.

“Not right now, John. We have to put the groceries away.”

“Noooo! I want to ride bikes now!” He screams a little more and throws himself on the floor.

After a few minutes, the fact that we won’t be riding bikes settles in. He whines, gets up, and follows me into our place.

Even from infancy, patience isn’t a word that we quite understand. It’s not a practice that comes naturally. If anything, no matter how old we are, we often detest the very word and act itself.

I didn’t set any specific New Year’s resolutions this year (surprisingly because I’m typically very goal oriented), but I knew in the back of my mind that I needed to work on practicing patience in my life- simply because I feel like this is one of the hardest virtues and spiritual disciplines to live out.

I need the person standing in front of me to move out of the way because I have two screaming children and need to check out

I want God to lead and guide our family, right now, to the perfect neighborhood after our lease is up in seminary housing

I want my friendships to grow on a deeper level, now.

I want to see the physical results immediately from my strength training class I take every week

I need God to heal the broken and sinful areas in my heart, right now. Why does sanctification have to be such a process?

I want all my dreams to be fulfilled now because time is of the essence. Besides, I turn 30 this year and I’m not getting any younger!

Our concept of time is so different from God’s. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Timing doesn’t thwart His plans or throw him off schedule. Thankfully, He’s told us a lot about patience in His Word, one being that we have to put it on. He knew that patience wouldn’t exactly be a part of our everyday wardrobe.

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience… Col. 3:12

There it is. A command that we must follow and obey. And we are His children.

Holy. Chosen. Beloved.

He is taking care of me and I don’t need to fret about the things I can’t see clearly or the prayers that have been left unanswered. If I’m to put on patience, then that means I must take off any impatience, anxious thoughts, pride, irritability, anger, and more. Any sin that hinders me from living the life God intends.

In the book Faith That Does Not Falter, Elisabeth Elliot writes:

We want answers now, right now, but we are required at times to walk in darkness.

If God requires me to walk in seasons of darkness, then I know that eventually His light will shine through and prayers will be answered according to His good and perfect will.

8 Comments leave one →
  1. January 18, 2012 9:40 pm


  2. January 23, 2012 12:06 pm

    Great reminder Samantha! Patience is hard thing to learn, especially in a download it now, TIVO it, instant coffee world 🙂

  3. January 24, 2012 1:41 pm

    Time is DEFINITELY an issue for us as believers. It helps to understand that God is SO big that He doesn’t know the future, He REMEMBERS it. So, from His perspective, it’s all a done deal and we really, really don’t need to be anxious about anything. Thanks for reminding us of that.

  4. Val permalink
    January 24, 2012 11:45 pm

    Samantha, I read this. I laughed a bit. The words patient and patience have prompted me an adult woman to throw tantrums to God as if I am a 3-year-old many times. I hope all is well with you and your family.

    • January 25, 2012 3:41 pm

      well you aren’t alone. I have acted just like my 3 year old at times! thank you for being honest!

  5. January 25, 2012 2:48 pm

    Thank you for the reminder about patience; it was exactly what I needed to read this week.

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