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December 1, 2010

We spent Thanksgiving this year at Jeff and Karen Riddle’s home. They are dear friends of ours who mentored Jeremiah and I and five other couples early in our marriage when we first moved to Dallas.

Karen had her first son Ryan and daughter Amanda at the same age I had John and Rebekah and they are also 2 years apart (now teenagers).

Sitting in comfy chairs around their outdoor fireplace, Karen and I talked about life and raising children. She said a lot of great things I will always take to heart and one truth really stuck out to me. She said that in all the busyness of life in this stage, to make sure I’m treating myself to one thing each day.

My eyes lit up when I heard her words. One thing… I can handle that, I thought.

It was great to hear that it was perfectly fine to do that. And it wasn’t selfish, but would help keep me sane!

Whether it’s getting coffee at Starbucks, shopping for an hour, writing, painting my nails, or even the smallest thing that I enjoy… taking the time to treat myself will really help in navigating the crazy waters of balancing two kids and meeting their daily needs.

I stared at the crackling fire, thinking hard on the wisdom there. Fresh into having two kids, I already feel the weight pressing in at times and the stress. Some days you just want to scream because you need time for yourself.

I haven’t figured out what all I can treat myself to each day but so far in the last week I took 30 minutes to buy a pair of jeans at our new Old Navy, got my hair cut and styled, shaved my legs, and took the babies along with me to get a peppermint mocha.

Obviously, finances don’t always allow for me to do those things every week, so I’ll have to get creative, but taking the time to do them refreshed my spirit and helped get me through the day. And I think they helped me be a better wife and mom.

I’m really thankful for women like Karen who encourage younger moms who haven’t quite been there and done that yet. It definitely helps to know you’re not alone.

How do you make sure you’re treating yourself and what does it do for you?

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5 Comments leave one →
  1. December 1, 2010 4:29 pm

    I treat myself my using the boys naptimes as time to work on my personal projects, whether photography or writing, instead of cleaning, laundry, or other house work. This feeds my creative side and is fulfilling in a different way from being a mother. Although, even sometimes I need to treat myself to a break from that too (as I wrote in my last blog post)!

    • December 1, 2010 10:27 pm

      Danielle- that’s great. I think I am going to start doing that because I get so tempted to do housework but I really need that as my creative outlet too when I’m fresh. I hear you completely in it being fulfilling in a different way.

      Going to check out your post.. 🙂

  2. December 1, 2010 10:10 pm

    Great inspiration Samantha! And I love that the advice came from Karen Riddle! 🙂 How awesome to have such wonderful mentors in our lives. I have to agree with everything you said… feeling guilty for doing something for yourself. Sometimes I just want to buy lunch and not make another meal! 🙂 Love what you have to say!
    Love Jules

  3. Karen permalink
    December 1, 2010 10:49 pm

    Samantha,
    I’m so proud of you guys ( and you too Julia) for wanting to have strong marriages and be great moms and dads…..I only wish Jeff and I had been able to have mentors early in our marriage. That “wisdom” you speak of really comes through life experience and following the Lord. On those “crazy” days, He is truly who sustains me. I’ll be praying for your “one things” : )
    Thanks for your encouragement!

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