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Love Your Choice

July 27, 2009

501144_dreamLately, I’ve been especially grateful to the man God gave me to be my husband. I just absolutely love doing life with him. Over the years, I appreciate him more and my respect and love for him grows deeper. This isn’t at all to say that our marriage is perfect. It isn’t to say that we don’t have our arguments, disagreements, frustrations, annoyances, and times where we’re just not on the same page and want to go crazy. But this is to say that since the day we began dating, we’ve really strived to put God at the center of our relationship. And I can say confidently today that He is at the center.

Honestly, I don’t know any other way to do marriage. I don’t know any other way to have a successful marriage. In the months before our wedding day, I had to realize that Jeremiah would never complete me. Only God could fill the deepest parts of my heart. I had to understand that marriage was going to be hard work. But I didn’t know the degree of hard work until I experienced it. Melding two imperfect sinners under the same roof for life just isn’t easy because sin is messy and in marriage you see it magnified all the more.

At Bluefish, we recently interviewed NFL football player Kurt Warner and his wife Brenda for our upcoming marriage series. I couldn’t believe that no matter how successful, talented, and famous Kurt is, he shared candidly how he still has to work through hardships and struggles in his relationship to Brenda. They both still have to work through unmet expectations, trust issues, and communication. It’s just not this magical relationship because of who he is. He has to work at keeping Christ in the center. It was also neat to hear them say that football is never even mentioned inside the walls of their home.

It’s been encouraging to hear stories like these and stories of friends who are striving towards a godly marriage. They’re aiming to love unconditionally, sacrificially, and selflessly- regardless of how hard it is. I saw a sign yesterday that had something to do with marriage that read, Choose your love, love your choice.

I love that. It reminded me of being committed for a lifetime. To keep loving your choice- in sickness, health, good times, bad times, when you don’t “feel” like it… There should never be another option.

I’m really thankful for the gift of marriage and I’m determined to keep working at it as I work on my own issues first.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Shakeer permalink
    July 27, 2009 4:46 pm

    Samantha I don’t know why post is not flooded with responses but I will be the first… I agree with all that you said it is very important to have God the center of your household. People that are married and even considering marriage need to read this and know what they getting themselves in and what they have in store. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and without God in the forefront you are headed toward a spiral downfall. It is inspiring to find that there are Christians out there who put God first. Even the most successful people need him. May God continue to bless you and your marriage because day by day God’s name is just a name we call when we are in pain or distress or a name that we hear in passing some people go their whole lives never experiencing the LOVE of Christ

  2. Lynn Kong permalink
    July 27, 2009 4:47 pm

    I am going through a divorce right now Sam….but all the same, i agree with your thoughts. Love both you and Jer, and I wish we could see each other again. XOXOXO

  3. Elizabeth Vanwingerden permalink
    July 27, 2009 4:48 pm

    thanks, sam. i needed to hear this today. ❤

  4. July 27, 2009 4:54 pm

    “Choose your love, love your choice.” Great quote. I think it’s easy to forget to that love is more a much a choice than a feeling. I hear too many people talk about “falling out of” and “falling in love” as though it were a whim or an emotion. That’s just infatuation, or perhaps lust. But true love is a choice. My wife and I just celebrated three years of marriage (yeah!), and we sometimes joke that “I love you, but I don’t like you right now.” And that’s healthy sometimes. But despite out spats, we continue to persevere in love and continue to learn from and about one another. Good post.

  5. Amy permalink
    July 27, 2009 8:58 pm

    You are such an encouragement to me! I hope to get married someday and I know that it will be a successful one because Christ will be the center! I loved that quote: “choose your love and love your choice!” I just pray that God makes it SUPER clear the man He has for me! I get nervous sometimes like what if I miss him or what if I’m being too picky. but I press on and try to wait patiently and enjoy singleness. Thank you for your encouragement and for being a light for Christ!

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